one of my friends is really trying to have a baby right now and they are extremely frustrated that nothing seems to be working. has reproducing come down to a feeling? is it all about the pregnancy experience for 10-months? is it the dressing up a human doll? is it about the cost of all the freakin’ accessories that you think you need when you haver a baby/child? is it about being needed by that special someone? what is it?
“My friend and I, who, in fits of self-empowerment, had conceived our babies with donor sperm because we hadn’t met Mr. Right yet, surveyed the idyllic scene. Ah, this is the dream,” I said, and we nodded in silence for a minute, then burst out laughing. In some ways, I meant it: we’d both dreamed of motherhood, and here we were, picnicking in the park with our children. But it was also decidedly not the dream. The dream, like that of our mothers and their mothers from time immemorial, was to fall in love, get married, and live happily ever after.” Atlantic Monthly Article Here
[i posted this a few days early without finishing my thoughts. thanks to those of you who pointed out my error.]